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How a deaf and homosexual man who grew up in 1940 evokes me

(The publish is written by Rikke Werge Nilsen, employed by Sonova (Phonak) Norway.)

I’m fortunate! I grew up in a household the place love was love, the place justice and delight within the household have been stronger than the concern of others’ prejudices.

What does this must do with listening to, you is perhaps considering? Effectively, completely nothing. In my world, orientation is the best way you might be born and a listening to loss just isn’t one thing you’ve got chosen. Nonetheless, I wish to share with you the story of Ingvard, a person I grew up with. He was deaf and homosexual.

Earlier than I start, I need to first clarify why I select to share this story. That everybody ought to be who you might be just isn’t solely a price for me personally, but additionally a spotlight in Sonova, my employer. Variety and acceptance is a crucial focus within the firm. That is portrayed in three of our values: we care, we’re accountable, and we construct profitable groups. By working collectively throughout ethnicity, faith, views, or orientation, we complement one another. That’s how we get the perfect staff. It’s good to know that one’s personal values ​​corresponds to the corporate for whom they work.

Battle-Occupied Denmark in 1940

Again to my story about my deaf and homosexual cousin. We’re going to Denmark round 1940. There was battle. Denmark was occupied. There was no room to face out. Hitler was clear: the Communists, gays, gypsies, the mentally disabled, and Jews needed to be exterminated. Variety was a risk to perfection. This was a few years earlier than homosexuality turned authorized.

My grandparents lived in a medium-sized city known as Randers. It was a staff’ city characterised by factories. Each of my grandparents got here from very tough circumstances. My grandma grew up in a big group of siblings. Her mom died when she was solely 4 years previous. They needed to get meals from the poorhouse to outlive. Grandpa additionally misplaced his father at a younger age. Because the son of the home, he needed to take a job as a newsagent earlier than the varsity day began.

Perhaps it was the identical laborious upbringing that made them lastly discover one another and love. They created a house in a really small two-bedroom condo that ultimately housed 4 daughters and an infinite variety of aquarium fish.

Deaf and Homosexual

It should have been seen to everybody within the neighborhood when Ingvard came over.

Ingvard as a younger man, right here subsequent to his mom.

Ingvard was Grandma’s nephew. Since Grandma was the youngest of 13 siblings, they have been the identical age and had grown up collectively. Nevertheless, Ingvard had chosen to go his personal approach. Early on, he displayed creativity and an curiosity in garments. He was apprenticed to a textile producer. There, he confirmed such expertise that he ultimately opened his personal enterprise in Odense, a bigger metropolis.

Along with his pleasant nature, heat customer support, and robust style consciousness, he achieved success. It was additionally clear to the rich males in Odense that there was no threat in sending the wives alone to Mr. Willumsen, as they nearly received a brand new finest pal from him along with a brand new coat!

However with Grandma and Grandpa in Randers, there have been no rich males or girls who wore stunning coats. That’s why the discuss was about Ingvard. Grandpa specifically was confronted together with his “acquaintance” with the female and laborious of listening to Mr. Willumsen. That is the place I get proud. The uglier the feedback, the extra cussed Grandpa turned. To any extent further, all visits from Ingvard began with a visit to an area inn the place he received a beer and a welcome house – proper in entrance of the eyes of dock staff and colleagues from the workshop!

My mother and her sisters grew up with Ingvard as their favourite cousin. They seemed ahead to every go to as he usually introduced presents, and lots of instances, a gown. They have been “his ladies” and his delight. In return they have been happy with him too.

Not Pure to Present His Love

I additionally grew up with “Cousin Ingvard,” who was a pleasant and colourful member of the family who attended celebrations and household gatherings. As a result of he had extreme listening to loss, I keep in mind that the conversations across the desk usually turned tiring for him. He usually took a break from the noise in my room. There, I confirmed him my Barbie dolls, which we dressed with the brand new doll attire that he introduced for me.

That Ingvard had a husband as a associate was utterly pure for me. Sadly I solely keep in mind having met him just a few instances. It tells me that regardless of the help and acceptance of the household for a few years, it was nonetheless not pure for him to indicate his love for a person brazenly within the Seventies and ’80s. I additionally know that he skilled each assault and harassment.

A pair holding palms

We nonetheless hear tales of homosexual {couples} being harassed in the event that they maintain palms.

Learn extra: Watch: Deaf, out and proud with listening to loss

The Battle Ended, however the Battle to be Oneself Continues

The story of Ingvard could also be from over 40 years in the past. However even immediately there are new tales about rainbow flags being stolen from flagpoles or about {couples} being harassed in the event that they dare to carry palms in public.

We hear about each deaf and homosexual people who find themselves met with prejudice and incomprehension. That’s exactly why I nonetheless want to indicate my help in public.

Be your self. Be proud. Joyful Pleasure!

The HearingLikeMe editorial staff consists of Jill Blocker von Bueren and Lisa Goldstein.



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